What are deal breakers~
Hard limits are deal breakers that you simply can't tolerate; putting up with them is repulsive to you. They are there to ensure your safety and happiness.
When we think about the kind of person we’d like to date, we often list the qualities we most desire in a partner—our dealmakers. But we also have our deal breakers—qualities that would disqualifysomeone as a dating prospect, regardless of how many other wonderful traits they have. There has been a great deal of research on dealmakers, but until recently, not much on deal breakers. In a series of studies, Peter Jonason and colleagues investigated the most common relationship deal breakers and how they affect our dating choices.
What are the most common deal breakers for men and women?
In the first study, the researchers just wanted to get a general sense of what traits people were likely to see as deal breakers. They surveyed 92 college students who were asked to list their personal deal breakers for long- and short-term relationships. Most of the students didn’t name that many—an average of just under 5 deal breakers for long-term relationships, and 3 for short-term relationships.
That first study generated a list of 49 possible deal breakers. In a second study, a separate sample of 295 students rated the extent to which they felt that each of those 49 traits was a deal breaker for them. In general, women were more likely than men to identify these traits as deal breakers. The table below shows the most common deal breakers. They tended to focus primarily on health (STDs, bad smells); dating behaviors (dating multiple partners, already in a relationship); and negative personality traits (untrustworthy, abusive, uncaring). (read more, click on link below)